Dear Dr. G,
I know that parents usually write to you to complain about us but I am writing to complain about my mother. My parents got divorced about a year ago. My brothers and I were very upset about it at first but now we feel much better since we get to see both of our parents.
Here is my problem. Let me tell you that I'm a teenage girl and I am finishing my junior year of high school. I have always had a semi-decent relationship with my mother even though she has always been a little strict and uptight. I'm basically a good kid but sometimes I do find ways around mom's rules. Well, lately, my basically uptight mother has changed her ways. Since she has started dating again she dresses like a teenager and looks ridiculous. She came to my soccer game wearing a mini-skirt and high heels. None of the other mothers were dressed like that. I swear that everyone was staring at her. Some of my male friends have made comments about mom that make me sick but I blame mom not them.
What do you think I should do? I can't deal with this. My mom is not a teenager.
An Embarrassed Teen
I really do understand how you are feeling. You are right. Your mother is an adult not a teenager and I understand why it would embarrass you to have your mother suddenly change her style.