Dear Dr. G.,
I am writing hoping you can give me some advice regarding my 21-year-old daughter. I am a single mum and my daughter is an only child, up until she was around 10 years old we had a fantastic relationship,friends as mum and daughter. There are various issues I am so concerned about as a mother, but to keep it short she has very low self esteem. It all started around her getting her periods at 11 years old,she started with a few spots and a little acne, her school had tough rules, and makeup etc was a no-no, although I helped her put a touch of concealer, then things got worse,we went to a dermatologist who gave her antibiotics,then roacatine! Which after two years we did not realise it has side effects, such as depression and causing redness on her face! We then went to another specialist who gave her laser treatment for the different pigmentation on her cheeks. To cut a very,very long story short she is so insecure she will not let anyone see her without a stitch of makeup on,she won't go to sleep overs, she won't go on holidays with her friends, and to make matters worse, she has an on and off boyfriend who mentally abuses her, and I also believe some physical too. He calls the shots,he tells her what to wear, when they are seeing each other, where they are going etc. and then when she complains about him flirting with other girls because he has photographs flaunted on Facebook. She is now obsessed with him. She has always been very academically conscientious in school and university where she is in her 3rd year but has already declined from studying,she loves her university course (fashion buying)but I am so scared for her health, happiness, and future. She also has threatened me that if she doesn't get back with him all she wants to do is die. She blames me for many things. I am so worried. She has googled suicide ideas. I have tried to comfort and support her even giving her ideas about how she should get him back to love her. I honestly don't know what to do, she also has a few health issues, bad back, always having stomach problems such as bloating, being sick,and psoriasis. She is constantly tired, has insomnia and has an underactive thyroid. She had the misfortune of catching an STD(genital wart infection) and since has had very bad bleeding in between periods. We have been going back and forth to our doctors. I have googled and searched looking to see what could be causing all of these health issues.They became worse from being with the boyfriend on and off for six years.