Dear Dr. G.,
My 15 year old does not want to get up for school. He did this in grade 7 as well. I tried all I could,finally I had to pull him out of school and homeschool him to get the school off my back. They were not helpful. Last year in grade 9 he was back at school, first semester all went well. Second semester he missed so much school that the principal asked me to take him to the doctor who gave him a clean bill of health and referred him for counselling. A psychiatric report said nothing is wrong with him.
This semester he is in grade 10 and is beginning to miss a lot of school again.As usual, and the case in previous years, he won't listen to me about going to bed before 10:30 or 11 even midnight most nights and he is way too tired the next morning.
What can I do to help him gain a sense of responsibility to get up and be on time for school so he can succeed and we can avoid "fighting matches"most mornings to get him to get up?I tried to put the onus on him and not intervene and he sleeps until 10AM or later! Help!
An Exhausted Mother
Dear Exhausted Mother,
I certainly have a tremendous amount of empathy for you. You must feel at wit's end. After all, you have taken everyone's advice and it appears that you have gotten little help and support. I am truly sorry about that.