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While some people seem eager to tackle new challenges, many of us are really just trying to survive without committing any major screw-ups. How can we shift our thinking, and approach new responsibilities and challenges with more confidence and energy? Read More
Making Mistakes Means
Making mistakes means that you are acting, developing, get useful the necessary experience. Each mistake is a deep meaning. Every mistake brings new opportunities.
Needing help doesn't mean you aren't capable
Needing help doesn't mean you aren't capable - in fact, the opposite is true.
What is the true opposite in this case?
That needing DOES mean to not be capable?
That being not capable DOES mean to need help?
Sorry, I do not understand.
Needing help means you _are_
Needing help means you _are_ capable (to recognize that with help you can accomplish your goals).
Needing help...
Actually needing help does not guarantee capability. Just because you recognize that you need help does not mean that, even with help, you are guaranteed to meet a specific goal.
Therefore, the correct opposite would be - Being "not capable" means you need help.
However, he probably meant it both ways - Being "not capable" means you need help - Needing help does not mean you are "not capable" (see Aileen's explanation)
It's one stupid line in an article meant to encourage people to learn from mistakes and ask for help when needed. I dont think we need to nitpick through it for grammatical errors.
my comment above
I guess I probably should have read the article before joining the discussion. I know realize after reading the line which follows the statement Antonio has questioned says...
"Only the very foolish believe they can do everything on their own"
Since this was listed under "get better goals" she basically means - By acknowledging you dont possess the knowledge or skills to complete a specific task and seeking out help, you are on the correct path to obtaining those skills.
Too often, people assume that
Too often, people assume that needing help *means* they lack ability, when in fact, the only way to GET ability is through learning and seeking help from experts. So, the true opposite would be:
Seeking help when you need it is a sure sign that you ARE capable of mastering the task, and that you are well on your way.
Seeking help...
Hey doc...I have to disagree. Just because a person sets out to learn a specific skill set for task, does not mean that person is capable of mastering that task.
I would assume that a person would not be hired if he was incapable of attaining all knowledge that he may be lacking to perform the job.
But to be realistic, it can happen...some people are smarter than others.
I don't start off ...
I don't start off by saying I'll make mistakes ... geez why would/should anyone do that ... but when I do, I simply say "ooops" ... and move on ... it's a simple action/acknowledgement/apology ... whatever ... that works for me.
Linked to Language
When I read the title of this post I immediately assumed it had to do with language learning. Possibly because it was Retweeted on Twitter by @irishpolyglot but also because I really think it applies in the same way.
I don't like the idea of making mistakes in Spanish but by reminding myself that I am still learning and that it is ok to make mistakes at my level, then it takes the pressure off and I probably do speak with less mistakes.
Technically Nopper's right --
Technically Nopper's right -- just because a 95-pound woman with one arm knows she needs help swinging a sledgehammer doesn't mean she'll ever be able to do so (okay, that's awful, but it's an extreme logical conclusion.)
But I think the doctor is probably trying to point out that people who use the strategy of trying to get better are probably the people who are most successful overall.
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