The Science of Love

Everything you want to know about love, sex, and marriage

by Pamela Regan, Ph.D.

Cuddling - How Important Is It (and Should We Pay for It)?

A café just opened in Japan where lonely, contact-starved customers can pay for a cuddle. Sounds crazy, right? Maybe not – the need for physical contact is fundamentally human. Read More

Human Pheromones – Fact or Fantasy?

Many have searched for the elusive human pheromone. What scientific evidence is there that lust, passion, and other human sexual responses are influenced by pheromones? Read More

The Very First Kiss: Momentous or Disastrous?

The very first kiss is a memorable event that occurs only once in a person’s lifetime. How does it make us feel? Excited? Anxious? Happy? Disgusted? In this month’s entry, I describe a study that explored people’s reactions to their very first kiss. What they said might surprise you. Read More

When It Comes to Relationships, the Little Things Count

We’ve all heard the old adage, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” And when it comes to the minor irritants of daily life, it’s probably sound advice. But is it good relationship advice? Not really. When it comes to our intimate relationships, there is some “small stuff” that we really shouldn’t ignore. Read More

Arranged vs. Love-Based Marriages in the U.S.—How Different Are They?

In a send-off to my wonderful research assistant, Carlos A., who leaves the lab to enter graduate school this month, I discuss our recent study comparing the relationship experiences of Indian-American adults in arranged marriages vs. free choice, love-based marriages. How different are they? Not very, it turns out. Read More

Is Infidelity Natural?

During a recent class discussion, one of my students raised his hand and asked, "Is cheating natural?" A lively — and intense — discussion ensued, with some arguing yes and others just as vehemently claiming no. What does science say? Read More

Let Me Introduce Myself...

As a scientist, I’m excited to have the chance to discuss cutting-edge research about close relationships. My goal is simple – to give you the most up-to-date scientific information about love, sex, attraction, conflict, and the many other fascinating and frustrating issues we face in our ongoing romantic relationships. Read More