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The Two-Minute Intervention That Will Unlock Your Creativity

According to Grammy-nominated musician Peter Himmelman, anybody who can fearlessly access and communicate their deepest emotions will be free of their fears and capable of realizing their full human potential. Read More

Thank you for this article.

Thank you for this article. Yes, real, good, sincere, felt music is like medicine, it's catharsis. I know, I had cancer an music too helped me.

yes I felt Marv leave when I

yes I felt Marv leave when I told my friend he was more than a friend to me. I felt light and happy as I was burdened by this knowledge that he was unaware of my feelings. But when the rejection followed the lightness was replaced by deep sorrow and depression. Bet the author has not got that far with his trick? as to how to deal with Mr Gloom when Marv leaves?its like the movie ends at a high point and the director takes the risk of saying they lived happily ever after but Alas the happiness was only short lived and was replaced by something else but the director doesn't film it.

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You said you felt 'light' and happy... exactly! It's a weight off your shoulders.

Facing your fears is absolutely no guarantee of a 'happy' outcome. However, facing your fears will definitely leave you better equipped to deal with future uncertainties. Sure, things didn't work out so well for you this time, but I can bet that the next time you have feelings for someone, you'll speak up sooner! Why? Because regardless of how someone reacts to a romantic confession, the point is you're saving time!

You confess and they reciprocate? Great! Now you're hanging around this person all the time wondering how they feel, and can instead get on dating and being with a person you enjoy.

You confess and they DON'T reciprocate? Ouch! Never feels good, but again.. time saved. Now you're no longer chasing after someone (okay maybe a little, we all do) who doesn't share your feelings.

I know I say a lot, but I hope I made it clear that facing your fears frees you in the most liberating way describable.

Dealing with emotion

I have spent my 25 year career pouring emotion into my stories. I have been scoffed and ridiculed because I choose to write romance novels. Although I didn't realize it until reading this article, I have been assuaging my "inner Marv" before beginning each new book. I have to clear my mind of all fear of being judged in order to allow each story to come into its full life, to allow each character to breathe and flesh out and FEEL. My "sweet little romance novels" (as some have derisively called them) have won awards and made bestseller lists and sold millions worldwide. I cannot allow the perceived judgment of others, or the fear of failure, hinder my creative process. No artist can. Thank you for helping me to understand how my creativity works!

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Ruth Blatt applies insights from psychology research to illuminate rock n' roll and, conversely, to highlight lessons it has to offer about teamwork, relationships, and creativity.

 

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