Would you rather hear what you can have versus what you can’t? Most of us respond better to positive reinforcement than to that ever-dangling carrot just out of reach.
Neuroscientists agree. In a recent study published in Social Neuroscience, researchers found that a more positive approach to coaching enhanced students’ ability to visualize their future. By asking students where they saw themselves in 10 years (instead of having them focus on their immediate weaknesses and areas of improvement), the researchers found different areas of the volunteers’ brains lit up when scanned. The so-called “positive coaching” group showed brain activity in the following areas:
Empathy and emotional safety
Global processing—the ability to see the big picture
Proactive approach to reaching goals rather than simply reacting to loss or fear
When we look at what’s wrong, instead of looking at what’s right, we get mired down in feelings of despair and dread. But when we shift our focus to what is working, our brains actually respond! We can literally change our world simply by taking a different perspective. It doesn’t change the facts, but it does change how we feel about them.
It’s like that with time, too. If we think we don’t have enough, we’re right because time is actually relative—our sense of time is intimately interwoven with our moods and emotions. If we feel centered and in control of our schedule, we are empowered and more productive. We can accomplish things in quantifiably less time when we are less stressed and more focused.
So let’s concentrate on what’s right about our world instead of looking at what we don’t have. And that dangling carrot? Well, think of it as the driving force that keeps you moving forward, a beacon on your path to what’s next without losing sight of the beauty of where you are now.
P.S. Need to slow down? I just had a chat with Matt Townsend on his radio program about why we need slow more than ever. Have a listen!