Own your sexuality. Remember all the “is she, isn’t she” a virgin stuff from ages ago? At first, Britney tried toplay the virgin card for way longer than she should have, particularly as she and Justin were supposedly vacationing together and shacking up. After it was all said and done, he ended up blowing her cover in a primetime television interview. Who cares what other people think about your sexuality? Own whoever it is you are and whatever it is you do. You’ll be happier in the long run if you can first accept yourself.

Dress up. There was the school girl outfit in Hit Me, the red latex catsuit in Oops, and the stewardess who wiped champagne off of men’s laps and brought guys into the Mile High Club in Toxic. Take a hint, find a costume from Three Wishes or some other lingerie shop and explore your saucy side in the bedroom. It's often said that the mind - in other words, the psychological aspects of sexuality - is the biggest sex organ. Make it work for you by taking on a new identity, re-imagining yourself as a sexy vixen or an irresistible playboy. 

Retain some modesty. True, she has been relentlessly pursued by paparazzi. But one might think that, at some point, she would begin wearing underwear or changing the way she steps out of cars - if not for her own modesty than for the fact that many young people look to celebrities as role models or for information about how they manage their bodies. In real, non-Hollywood life, people who continue to expose their genitals in public are called exhibitionists. 

In love, do your own thing. Everyone was pretty much on board with Britney’s teen dream relationship with Justin. But then there was the quickie Vegas ceremony. And that wedding to K-Fed? Also a bit of a shocker. But you know what? A great story hopefully came out of Vegas and two beautiful little babies came from her marriage. Though no one knows where Britney’s life will take her, at least she’s (hopefully) not doing only what she feels everyone else wants her to do in order to fit in. In love and in sex, we all have to make our own way. Make sure you enjoy whatever path it takes you on – even if you hit a few bumpy roads from time to time. If you lack the confidence to do so, or the comfort in your own skin, and you'd like the support of a professional, consider meeting with a licensed counselor or therapist in your area. 

Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH is a sexual health researcher at Indiana University, a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, and author of the book Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. Follow her on Twitter @mysexprofessor

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