As technology becomes second nature to a generation reared on iphones, an increasing number of people are using text messages to resolve disputes in their friendships and significant relationships. But if 93 percent of communication is visual and audio, habit and expediency may actually create more problems than it solves.
Broadly defined, creativity is bringing something new into existence. As human beings, it’s practically our birthright. Every day, we wake up to a blank canvas with a wide range of colors, textures, and shapes at our disposal. From choosing what clothes to wear to preparing breakfast, each tiny decision sculpts our experience of the world. Read More
Human beings are natural storytellers and meaning makers. We have lucky numbers and charmed rabbit’s feet. Our problems may not lie so much in our beliefs that don’t stand up to scientific reasoning, but in our attachments to narratives that don’t serve us or cause us harm. Read More
For years, I had been helping people reclaim the authorship rights of their life stories. But after a series of family deaths, my ideas were put to the test. Could I turn a family tragedy into a story of love and redemption? Read More
As we age, we are often measured by our gains, not our losses, our stability, not our vulnerability. That's why so many people are devastated when the temple of their familiar world is shaken. Yet change doesn't have to be scary. Understanding the three stages of transition can help us navigate life's twists and turns.
While there's nothing wrong with taking pride in one's hard-earned status and credentials, glomming on to titles that complete sentences like "I am a ________________" (stockbroker, lawyer, etc.) can trigger an identity crisis when confronted with precarious life circumstances like, say, a recession. Read More
Like an asana, a healthy relationship requires flexibility, commitment, and alignment with our internal sources of vitality and well-being—loving ourselves unconditionally, for example—even while enduring periods of discomfort. Making yourself a little uncomfortable for someone you love can stretch the relationship into new levels of health and vitality. Read More
Conversations between two parties who are not really listening to each other are essentially monologues masquerading as dialogues. One of the hardest things we can ever do is to put aside our own agendas and really listen to another person. Read More
By pronouncing precisely who likes who and who is doing what, Facebook tells us in black and white letters and full-color photos what we might otherwise read between the lines and wish we could ignore. Read More
Kim Schneiderman, L.C.S.W., is a psychotherapist in private practice on the Upper West Side of Manhattan.