The Narcissus in All of Us

Reflections on the self, personality, and what makes you, "you."

by Joshua D. Foster and Ilan Shrira

The unseen dynamic of good parenting

By Ilan Shrira on October 18, 2008 in The Narcissus in All of Us

Much of what determines a child's emotional stability and the skills to develop healthy relationships as they get older has to do with the way parents respond to a child's emotions as they arise in everyday situations. These parental strategies are actually quite simple. Read More

Emotional Coaching for parents

Submitted by leona on October 18, 2008 - 2:50pm.

Thank you so much for this article...it has stimulated me to explore how I can bring this into my integration of Nonviolent Communication and Focusing trainings.
As a mother, I know, all too well, that delicate balance we strike trying to acknowledge our children's experiences and providing strength-based and values-focused guidance that aligns with their way of being in the world. Teaching our children to trust themselves by listening empathically means these children will grow up and give the same gift to others.

I'm off to get the book and create a course that will support and sustain parents in these changeable times. Through Focusing parents can get in touch with their inner wisdom and through NVC they can communicate with respect & compassion, enhancing relationships and reducing conflict while building emotional intelligence and resilience.

VERY EXCITING.

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Good Parenting

Submitted by Writing Frontier on October 18, 2008 - 7:36pm.

Kind of tough in this day and age to figure out if you're really following all the right modern day rules of parenting. Take,for instance, the story told in "Child's Play." See what you think.

http://writingfrontier.com/2008/09/08/childs-play/

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The rules

Submitted by Ilan Shrira on October 19, 2008 - 1:30pm.

WF, Thanks for the feedback. I agree that it’s difficult to keep track of these modern day "ground rules" for parents. Especially since it’s impossible to completely understand how the mindset and the needs of today’s children are different from when we grew up (and there are big differences). For the most part, it’s probably best to accept these changes and try to understand where our children are coming from. Your narrative suggests that you’ve retained a sense of humor at least, without becoming irreversibly cynical about it. Stay positive! Ilan

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Wonderful book

Submitted by Prachee on November 18, 2008 - 3:41am.

its great that you thought of writing about this book.
I 'd like to say that I have read it recently and I found it most useful and illuminating-it would be wonderful if more parents read and discuss about the various situations where they have used emotion coaching successfully and some not so successfully.