What God has joined together, let man not separate. Matt. 19:6

The marriage of young people is a fertile ground in which they continue to cultivate their personal growth and to seed their marital union and future family. It is natural that at times married people feel overwhelmed and inadequate. It is important not to jump to the seemingly easy conclusions: "Maybe I am not suitable for marriage," or "Maybe this is not the right spouse for me." These questions are legitimate if made before the decision to get married, but if you feel you are not ready to be a spouse and are already married, leaving the marriage will hardly help you become a good spouse. Asking yourself whether you should be married after you've gotten married will only feed your natural ambivalence, leading toward divorce. Once God joins you, nothing should separate you from your spouse.

In fact, none of us is really ready to be a spouse or parent. We all have some healthy skepticism about our potential and tend to exaggerate our limitations when it comes to the marital union. But those doubts are natural ingredients of marriage; that is why marriage is considered a miracle. It was at a wedding ceremony in Cana that Jesus performed His first miracle: transforming water into wine. In marriage we transform doubts to certainty; ambivalence to commitment; discouragement to hopefulness; skepticism into total faith. Then you can become a fulfilled spouse and parent and gain blissful epiphanies. Faith creates miracles.