Tom’s board spun out from under his feet as he attempted to surf the large wave. As he plunged backward into the roiling surf, he was frustrated once again by the lack of stability from his traditional Hawaiian style surfboard. Read More
I kept thinking that at some point I would accumulate enough knowledge that I could do the work fearlessly. Instead, I spent tons of time in preparation, and little time in actually doing. As a result I failed. Read More
Bullies and their victims are opposite sides of the same coin. The problem for both of them is essentially the same. They both crave positive recognition, but they both lack self-confidence and the social skills to acquire what they need. The solution is twofold... Read More
When children do not conform or are genuinely unique (in whatever way), the other children will pitch in by bullying them back into conformity. Those on the sidelines learn quickly what is expected and what will not be tolerated. Read More
I was driven by my severe emotional pain to seek answers, because I never wanted to feel that bad again. I didn’t know where to begin, so I set off on what I called a journey of self-discovery. Read More
I started thinking about people who have extreme and chronic pain, and how seriously demotivating it can be. As Samuel Johnson, the 18th century English essayist, once observed, “Those who do not feel pain seldom think that it is felt .” Through my own pain, I was beginning to develop some empathy for those who live with it every day. Read More
Busy people are seldom innovators because creative thinking takes time. Some are outsourcing their need for new ideas to creative think tanks. London's Great Ormond Street Hospital took their patient transfer problem to the Ferrari racing team's pit crew for answers.
An individual’s motivation for power is to acquire control over his environment. A certain amount of controlling behavior is a healthy natural survival instinct, but after a point it becomes harmful. When that happens normal survival is no longer the motivator. Underlying the quest for power is fear, and the desire for power is to eliminate fear. The more fearful a person Read More
When we attend the movies we frequently engage in a willing suspension of disbelief, which enables us to accept implausible scenarios, and enjoy the show. Some people, however, don’t leave that ability at the theater door. Read More
It’s rare that an idea drops fully formed into someone’s head. Even when it seems that way there are countless hours of experience that paved the way for that idea to form. Most ideas begin with a problem that needs to be solved. Other times you have to seek out the problem. Here's how... Read More
If you have a sense of adventure, then you are already on the road to becoming an innovator. There is always some level of risk in trying something new. At a minimum, you may not enjoy it. Perhaps we fear, what C.S. Lewis noted in this quote, “Experience is the most brutal of teachers. But, you learn, by God, you learn.” Read More
When you believe you can do something - you don’t really think about it - you just do it. It’s the thinking about it that sometimes holds you back. If there is something you want to do, but haven’t tried, then break it down. What parts of it do you believe you can do? What parts do you believe you can’t do? Next... Read More
Are you sensing the beginnings of a new trend in your industry, the economy, or the population? Then maybe it is time to play this game - it's a powerful innovation tool that will make your business more competitive. Read More
I was sitting on the bench in the locker room dressing out for P. E., when a big kid I hadn’t met before sat down next to me. With a broad smile on his face he said, “Hey.”
Appreciating a potential new friend, I smiled back and replied, “Hi.”
He then he shoved me off the bench, slammed my locker shut, and started laughing. The kids around us laughed too.
My sister and I quickly learned that love came with a price tag: achievement. If we wanted love and attention we had to earn it. My sister became a straight-A student in school. She worried so much about achieving a perfect report card that she ended up in the hospital. Read More
Sometimes a writer’s stories are guided by his deepest unsatisfied needs. I’m talking about how his unresolved issues, ones that hark back to his childhood, will emerge as traits in his fictional characters. What shocked me, when I recently revisited some of my earliest writings, was that I too had done this. Read More
We repel the very intimacy we desire from our relationships. We do this by hiding our vulnerability, by building impervious walls - personas - to protect us from embarrassment and shame. Contrary to our beliefs, vulnerability is disarming, and makes aggressors back down.