The Long Reach of Childhood

How early experiences shape you forever

The Either/Or of Family Dynamics

The dictionary definitions of a tug-of-war: “as a game meaning two teams tug on opposite ends of a rope each trying to pull the other across a dividing line and as a struggle for supremacy.” Both definitions are played out between two warring parents, usually using a particular child as “the rope”– who then gets caught in a dilemma of “You’re either for me or against me." Read More

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Ditta M. Oliker, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in Los Angeles and the author of The Light Side of the Moon: Reclaiming Your Lost Potential.


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