My passion is to create a community of hope, support, and recovery for daughters of narcissistic mothers. When my book, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, was released, the most striking feedback from daughters all over the world was a sense of relief...a need for validation. The inner emotional stirrings within thousands of women, creating self-doubt, and self-blame, without true understanding of what was going on, became even more apparent. Giving a name, a voice, a way to legitimize the pain of the past legacy and call it what it is...was alone an uncovering, a revealing that our souls need to begin to heal.
The topic of maternal narcissism needed its debut. The curtains had to be drawn on a taboo topic for daughters everywhere to begin the journey of working up to their truth and ultimately their striving for an inner peace that previously felt obscure, insidious, and melted together in a pot of confusion. Although taboo in a culture where motherhood is sacred, it is time to talk about it.
I want to be clear that I am not about creating another category of victims. I do not advocate for daughters to hate their mothers, or carry blame, anger, rage or resentment. This journey is about love, understanding and some common language for points of connection, but to get to that shore, daughters have to understand, accept and grieve first. My book holds a five-step recovery program and we will continue to discuss this here and on my book website at www.nevergoodenough.com. An international sisterhood is forming where women like you and I need support, education, understanding, validation, and a place to be authentic.
I warmly welcome you to join us as we trudge forward opening the doors and windows of our inner selves and our legacy of past pain and experience. As we do that together, we find new hope and recovery with some gorgeous rainbows and horizons that we didn't know existed. We are so much more than our past. The time is now to traverse, search, explore and swim madly to another shore where mere survival becomes an environment of glowing authenticity and beautiful women who have been hiding in self-doubt. We begin to dare and then speak out. Let us hold and support each other with a knowing and understanding as each one of us bravely steps into the unknown elements of this exciting new shore of self-discovery.
There's much more to come as we continue this discussion. Remember that when we have hope and understanding, lights suddenly appear and our world is illuminated with new vision. I called the electrician to get the juice flowing in my soul and although it took some time to change the light bulbs, (sigh) the passion is burning brightly to reach out to you.
Dr. Karyl
