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Love, lust, and the luster of life.

Is Love Meant to Make Us Happy?

If we expect love to make us happy, we automatically interpret its setbacks and disappointments as a sign of failure. But what if happiness is merely one aspect of love's multifaceted mission? What if love is more interested in our growth than our happiness? Read More

mostly right

I always found that the fights between the couples result in better understanding of one another and for sane people this actually translates into less errors, better life in the future. For people plagued with other more serious problems, or for people too young to have a fully developed personality, those fights may cause divergence, though.

I think the "failures" may be blessings really, because they force us to think and grow. Thus, you are right about it. But, I must add that this is true for sane and fully grown adults. For other people who do not fit in this category, anything is possible; the failures may actually repeat the same way in the future or bigger failures may result, which is what I used to call "divergence".

I dread being the

I dread being the anti-romantic, but love, like evolution, likely has no goal - other than to keep propogation of our selfish gene going at a statistically stable rate.

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Mari Ruti, Ph.D., is a professor of Critical Theory at the University of Toronto. She is the author of The Case for Falling in Love and The Summons of Love.


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