It has always been my feeling that psychiatrists are often as nutty as their patients. The only grief counselor I know is a relative who lost a daughter in a car accident, and she now tours the country continually reliving the experience through others.
Sounds like it's best not to go yourself to a grief counselor but suggest it to someone who's obviously having problems with a personal loss.

Although current finances prevent me from leaving my husband right now, for the past few months, I have been trying to prepare him for my ultimate departure from our marriage. He has always had an obsessive/possessive nature towards me, which led to my decision to "prep" him before hand. I have tried everything.

When I tell him I don't love him, he says "Yes, you do." When I tell him I will be leaving him, he says, "No, you're not." When I tell him I want a divorce, he says he will NEVER give me one. When I tell him it repulses me when he tries to hug me, he tries to hug me. When I tell him there's nothing he can do to change my mind, he leaves notes and sexually suggestive (and repulsive) gifts in the bathroom for me to see in the morning.

I purposely changed my work shift to afternoons (he works days) and then stay out even later, alone - so I don't have to spend time with him. As soon as I arrive home - sometimes at 2 or 3 in the morning, he's waiting for me and acts like nothing's wrong and tries to hug and kiss me.

I'm at the point now where I bar my bedroom door at night (we've slept in separate bedrooms for quite some time now), and he still tries to get in. Next morning, he's back to acting like nothing is wrong.

My parents (neither of which can stand my husband - he's always said he looks forward to their deaths), recently celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. Prior to that, he continually suggested he and I take them out. I excluded him from the plans, spent a pleasant night with my brother and parents, went home, only to find him once again acting like nothing was wrong, and trying to hug and kiss me.

I have written him letters telling him to stop it and that nothing he does will change my mind, I have ripped up his cards and given them back to him.

I really think I've tried everything - at least - everything I can think of, but nothing seems to get through his seemingly thick wall of denial and delusion.

Until I can afford to leave him, can anyone suggest what I might try in the interim that will force him to accept that our marriage is over, that I will be leaving, and to stop acting like nothing is wrong?

I'd be grateful.