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Tell Us About Being an Extrovert

Taking the conversation in a new direction.

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Many of us who strongly identify with introversion actually consider ourselves ambiverts to some extent—we can be extroverted when we need or want to. So we have some understanding of extroversion, in our way.

But after spending all this time thinking about introversion, I’ve started wondering about extroversion and extroverts' understanding of themselves.

Of course, we have to talk in widely sweeping generalizations to have conversations like this, but as long as we’re trying to understand each other, we have to start somewhere.

For example, I have learned to recognize the signs that I have overdosed on people and need to be alone: My head feels full, my thoughts become jangled, I have trouble focusing and feel tired. So I’m wondering: What sorts of things do extroverts feel when circumstances force them to be alone too much and they need people?

I also recognize when I have had more than enough solitude and need to get out of my house/head and among people. I start feeling lonely, a little weird, fearful that I might have lost my conversational skills. What do extroverts feel when they have had enough people and need downtime?

Do extroverts ever feel pressured to behave in a more introverted fashion? One study found that extroverts required to behave as introverts for ten minutes were much more tired than introverts who were required to behave as extroverts for that same time. Is that your experience?

Is any invitation better than no invitation? Can full-out extroverts have fun anywhere with anyone at any time or are some invitations unappealing? Does staying home alone ever sound like more fun than going and doing?

Do you like reading? Talky, low-action movies?

Given a choice, do you ever choose to do something alone (take a hike, go to a movie) rather than seek out a companion for it?

Just wondering...

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Sophia Dembling is a widely published Dallas, Texas-based writer. Look for her next book, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After, coming in January 2015.

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