I'm all about self-affirmations this week. I covered affirmations for pessimists
on another blog, now I'm thinking about affirmations for introverts
Self-affirmations, when spoken aloud, can sound kind of silly. OK, sometimes they sound a little silly even when you say them silently to yourself. But if we can permit ourselves a Stuart Smalley moment now and then, affirmations can come in handy to remind us of things we might already know but forget in moments of insecurity. They can help us hold our ground when others are trying to force their values on us, and they can give us that last little push we need to open our mouths and assert ourselves.
I particularly like and often use the old standby "Different strokes for different folks." It's a good catchall: It works when other people try to tell me I'm not behaving as they think I should, it works when I'm comparing myself unfavorably to others, and it works when I catch myself feeling judgemental about others' choices or behaviors.
A few others, for various circumstances:
- Just because I'm quiet doesn't mean I have nothing to say.
- Staying home is doing something.
- Managing my energy is a favor to myself and everyone around me.
- I like who I like and that's my right.
- There's nothing wrong with saying "no."
- I can love other people and still not be responsible for their good time. (Variation on a theme.)
- Listening to bores is not my job.
- Parties are supposed to be fun. When I stop having fun, it's OK to leave.
- My presence is a gift, not a requirement.
- I know what I need better than anyone else.
- Putting on my dog-and-pony show is optional. (This is a biggie for me. And what a relief!)
What works for you?
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