The Intelligent Divorce

How to get yourself and your kids through a breakup

by Mark Banschick, M.D.

Control & Intimacy

Childhood wounds run deep, and often time make true intimacy seem impossible. How can you and your partner get past this? One of our readers has been brave enough to share her story of early childhood abandonment, and how it has affected her relationships. Read More

Icy Intimacy: A 3-Step Solution

Do you find your spouse controlling, but not intimate? Is she too easily angered after sex or avoids it altogether? Does he hold back while devoting all his warmth to the kids? Are you living like room mates, without the sweet softness of devoted lovers? Read More

Ode to Being a Mommy

Being a Mom is precious, and it has its price. We all know that it's worth it. Read More

Field of Intimacy

Just as great rivers have their sources, so too does intimacy. To sense intimacy’s power and its field, turn your attention to life’s original intimate relationship in early childhood. This is where many answers to the pleasure and the anguish of love can be found. Read More

New Love

You've gotten divorced, and now you're finally in a place to begin dating again. You both share custody, so when something affects your children, your ex is involved. How do you introduce your new love to your children? How much does he or she need to know? Do you need to prepare for an explosion? Read More

What's Eating You?

A new play about relationships and love. Read More

Stand Your Ground - A Psychological Inquiry

"Do not ... put a stumbling block in front of a blind person." A closer look at Florida's Stand Your Ground Law Read More

Teens, Divorce, and Food

Does your teen have an eating disorder? Leanne Hall on how to tell and what not to say when talking to your teen. Read More

Erich Fromm on Making Love

Love in the nooks and crannies. Read More

The Truly Free Marriage

Is renewal really possible? Read More

A Better Marriage (or Relationship)

What's next for The Intelligent Divorce? Read More

Stop Being Anxious About Being Anxious

The many approaches to anxiety. Read More

The Narcissistic Ex, Part V

How "healthy narcissism" can get you hurt. Read More

The Narcissistic Ex Part IV

He may not be a narcissist, but he's still an a-hole. Read More

The Narcissistic Ex, Part III

Is it fair to call someone a narcissist? Read More

The Narcissistic Ex, Part II

Last week, we discussed narcissistic personalities in divorce. Now, let's elaborate on this subject, and go over some some precautions that may help you when dealing with a narcissistic ex husband or wife. Read More

The Narcissistic Ex, Part I

This week we will dicuss narcissism and divorce as a part of our series on the narcissistic ex. Read More

Attention All Fathers (and Sons)

In The Way, Martin Sheen learns how to be a Dad — the hard way. Read More

Race, Civil Rights and Love

The Loving Story is a recently released HBO special on a couple who were at the epicenter of one of the biggest civil rights cases in American history. Read More

The High Failure Rate of Second and Third Marriages

Conventional wisdom tells us that those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it, so why are second and third marriage so much more likely to fail? Author Leo Averbach returns to explain. Read More

What Sports Mean to Us - and Why it's Important

A nail-biter compelling, but in ways that you may not imagine. Read More

Radical Acceptance

We are born into a world that is not of our making. We are given a place to grow up, parents, a family, a home, neighbors, teachers, friends—and an era in which we evolve. We don't get a choice in so much that really counts. Read More

How My Divorce Made Me a Better Divorce Lawyer

We are pleased to have Lawrence H. Bloom, a New York and New Jersey based matrimonial attorney present his views of divorce as a client - and not just as an attorney. Larry also hosts a weekly radio show, "The Divorce Hour with Larry Bloom", Fridays at noon Eastern Time at www.talkingalternative.com, with podcasts available on The Divorce Hour page of the same site. Read More

The Malignant Divorce: Has NASA Gone Postal?

Heaven has no rage like love betrayed. Read More

It's All Your Fault!

The Intelligent Divorce book series, online course , newsletter and radio show is a step by step program to handling divorce with sanity - from raising healthy kids to dealing with an impossible ex.

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Does My Teen Need Treatment? Part II

Gratitude: An Inspired Year Starts With A Small Spark

Whether you talk about Christmas, Chanukah or New Years, the message is about renewal. We are inspired to believe that even in the darkest hour, redemption – either spiritual or secular – will indeed triumph. This is why, in the Northern Hemisphere, our holidays correspond so beautifully with the Winter Solstice and the cold, grey days that have enveloped us. Read More

Making a Vacation a Vacation

What It's Like to Be a Collaborative Lawyer and Mediator

Rita Pollak, past president of the International Academy of Professionals, writes her second guest blog. This one talks about the personal experience of being a collaborative lawyer in a world of adversarial law. Read More

Mark Banschick, M.D., is a psychiatrist and author of The Intelligent Divorce book series.

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About The Intelligent Divorce

The Intelligent Divorce Project looks at helping parents and kids to get through divorce. The project includes two books called The Intelligent Divorce, an online parenting course, www.FamilyStabilizationCourse.com and a radio show, www.DivorceSourceRadio.com. Recently, we have been teaching about relationships and marriages our unique perspective. In other words, what the study of divorce can teach us about successful relationships.