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Why People Fear Growing Up and Functioning as Adults

What are the the principal barriers to living an adult existence? In this blog, I explore the psychodynamics underlying the tendency to hold onto a child’s perspective despite the emotional turmoil, maladaptation, and unhappiness it creates. Read More

As I've recently dived into

As I've recently dived into adulthood, I find myself struggling with numbers 2 and 3. I was left alone at home a lot when I was a kid, and therefore I always used to imagine fantasy situations and people that I still carry with me today. In order to fall asleep at night, I have to invent other people around me to make me feel safe and quell my anxiety. Now it's almost impossible to stop the fantasies, and I feel that they've taken over my life. By this point, there's really nothing that can be done my now either.

NOPE

THIS IS COMPLETE AND UTTER BULLSHIT. HOW ABOUT THE FACT THAT RESPONSIBILITY SUCKS AND HAVING FUN DOESN'T. I DON'T NEED YOUR MUMBOJUMBO TO EXPLAIN SOMTHING THAT IS PAINFULLY OBVIOUS. YOU WROTE A WHOLE BOOK ABOUT THIS SHIT?

Haha realist is right.

Haha realist is right. Quackpsych.. all of it and not just limited to this fiction novel.

I'd like to point out that

I'd like to point out that "aspects" 1 through 5 describe the function of religion.

I wonder what Firestone might say about religion, and the fact that it functions as a socially and psychologically "acceptable" outlet for all the mental processes he advises us to abandon.

I'd also like to point out that Firestone is doing his best to interpellate individuals into the ideology of 21st century "late stage" corporate capitalism:
- Be (or convince yourself that you are) happy with what little you have.
- Blame yourself for what you don't or can't have.
- Don't fantasize or examine the external sources of your dissatisfaction. And don't try to change them, because the blame for your dissatisfaction lies with you.
- Don't examine the social roots of emotions and the dysfunctional social structures and discourses which produce them.
- Shut the f*ck up and be "adult." And buy Firestone's book.

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Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D.is the author of The Fantasy Bond, Voice Therapy, Compassionate Child Rearing and many other books and articles.

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