Or as Flannery O’Connor observed, “Accepting oneself does not preclude an attempt to become better.”
There are many paradoxes of happiness, and this is one of the most important.
In Happier at Home, I write about how I struggled with this question as I faced my fear of driving. Should I accept a fear of driving as a natural limit of my nature, or should I expect myself to conquer that fear? Very reluctantly, I decided to make myself start driving again.