The Happiness Project

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Pigeon of Discontent: “I Envy My Friends"

What makes you “feel bad”?

Each week, I post a video about some Pigeon of Discontent raised by a reader. Because, as much as we try to find the Bluebird of Happiness, we’re also plagued by the Pigeons of Discontent.

This week’s Pigeon of Discontent, suggested by a reader, is: “I envy my friends.”


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What makes you “feel bad”?

 Can a negative emotion like regret actually help make you happier? I think so.

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Do you sometimes find it hard to be happy when your friends succeed?

How about you? Have you found any good ways to deal with feelings of envy–or other negative emotions? Do you sometimes find it hard to be happy for your friends?

You can post your own Pigeon of Discontent at any time; also, from time to time, I’ll make a special call for suggestions.

You can check out the archives of videos here.

Also ...

  • I'm now obsessed with the sense of smell, and that obsession led me to a much greater appreciation for perfume. If you're also interested in perfume, check out Victoria Frolova's Bois de Jasmin. Dangerously good.

  • Volunteer as a Super-Fan, and from time to time, I'll ask for your help. Nothing too onerous, I promise! Also, around the publication of Happier at Home, I'll have some fun things to offer, as well. Email me here.

Gretchen Rubin is the author of The Happiness Project, a book and a blog about her adventures learning to be happier.


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