She walked into the Borders Bookstore on the Vegas strip - petite, pretty and all of 25. I was promoting my latest published book, Dating the Younger Man.This young woman was a local reporter anxious to interview me after hearing about my philosophy of ageless love on National Public Radio (NPR). Her enthusiasm impressed me as she asked question after question while recording my passionate responses. Ready to wrap, she snatched a copy of my book and vehemently stated, "I'm going to read this ASAP and try out your program this weekend. I just met a younger Boy Toy and can personally use the advice." I thought, "Is she joking? Could this young lady consider herself an OLDER WOMAN?" I could not wait to read her review. You see my work on this book uncovered something bigger than I had imagined.
By Cyndi Targosz
I'd heard all the research from AARP, read the online polls, and seen the media frenzy about older women dating younger men. Clearly, many women 40 and up are choosing younger men. However, I'm the kind of person who asks a lot of questions and has to get to the bottom of everything. The "Cyndi Sleuth" in me felt compelled to do my own research. I wanted to hear from men and women who were or had been in relationships where the man was younger - married or single. No limits were placed on the age of the respondents nor did I specify how big the age difference needed to be. The woman just had to be older. First I conducted live interviews. Then I sent out an anonymous cyber survey encouraging my data base to pass it on to others. Faster than you can download an mp3 tune my inbox was full with nearly 1000 replies. I knew that I would hear from many women in their 40's and up but did not expect a whopping 20 percent of the women to be in their late 20's and 30's. After reading their responses I concluded that these women are still experiencing the same dating double standards that their older counterparts (40+) experience. Being stereotyped as a "predator" was a common complaint. I was even more surprised to find out that women in their 20's consider themselves - THE OLDER WOMAN! Admittedly, this was a non-scientific survey but the results make me ponder, why do we still have negative notions about age that prevent women from experiencing love or even companionship?