Long story short, I communicate with a few friends long distance (we have moved quite a bit). We email about all sorts of things, light and more serious, about once a week.
Recently, my husband and I received some bad news. This was something my "friends" knew about, and had asked me to keep them posted on. Yet, when I emailed these four friends separately about the bad news, two responded and two have not.
There has been no "I am sorry" etc. It's been weeks. They are pretty responsible and respond to emails quickly. This is so hurtful. If they had emailed me bad news, I would respond right away. Even just to say, "I am sorry."
Am I being over-sensitive? Am I expecting too much? It just seems so easy for someone to text or email back an acknowledgement of what happened. I just want to know they care!
I don't want to give up these friends. They are really nice people. But it hurts and couldn't take more than 30 seconds to respond. Should I ask them about it? Ask if I somehow offended them in some way?
Yes, friends should respond to bad news and should do so within a reasonable timeframe. The correct response upon hearing bad news is to express sympathy and see if there is some way you can help or support your friend in crisis—whether the bad news pertains to sickness, divorce, loss of employment, or death.