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Excluded by Grown-Up Mean Girls

I have mixed with a group of 7 or 8 women in my hometown since my oldest child was at kindergarten and she is now nine. I have been closer to some more than others and fluctuations in the intimacy of these friendships have occurred, which is probably normal. Recently, however, I have felt excluded by the group. Read More

Ouch! That is very good

Ouch! That is very good advice. I would also advise to seek supportive friendship elsewhere. Completely cutting ties with the group is probably a bad idea, but if you reasonably feel excluded and they don't respond to that they are rotten! I would follow up with the close friend and ask what is going on, as suggested. If this exclusion started out of the blue after many years, well that is just odd and something must be going on that you don't know about.

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Irene S. Levine, Ph.D., is a psychologist and professor of psychiatry at the NYU School of Medicine. Her latest book is Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup With Your Best Friend.


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