I am a 52-year-old woman who had a very close friendship with a young girl in her late 20s whom I worked with for about two years. We met at our training class and continued once out on the floor.
I'm a young minded person and get along with mostly every one. I have a 24-year-old daughter of my own so I made sure to never put my two cents in when this friend would talk about her relationship with her fiancé.
My friend was going through one of the most exciting times in her life. Her fiancé had just joined his first law firm as an attorney after working as a state defender; my friend was going back to school for her Masters degree. So life looked to be very good for both of them. I went through the excitement of the engagement ring and also attended the engagement party.
One day, she mentioned that she had sat with him at a casino that weekend and watched him play poker. Then a couple of weeks later while working a Saturday she mentioned she was going to meet him at the casino. That is when my concern set it.
I was previously married for seven years to a man who had a gambling addiction. By the time we met, he had been going to casinos for years and placing bets with a bookie. He was out of control and had no intentions of ever stopping. After years of neglecting his marriage and thousands of dollars loss each year, I was no longer able to bear it so the marriage was over. Through conversations with him, I learned that while still in his twenties, he had control and knew when to stop but I guess like drugs or alcohol, gambling can get out of control and take over your life.
I was in the process of moving out of state and a couple of months before I left, I told her to be careful and mentioned my experience. Looking back, that was not the thing to say. Almost immediately, she changed her attitude towards me and made it obvious that she didn't care to associate with me. Possibly I threw an axe in her beautiful life and, at that point, while planning her wedding it wasn't something she cared to hear.
Anyway, I have come to realize with our age difference I shouldn't let it bother me and I know that she still has a lot to learn in life and I wish her well. I did email her once after my move and she did not reply. Just curious what your take is on this situation.