The Empathic Misanthrope

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Fake It 'Til You Make It

What do the world's most successful individuals possess that allows them to be so influential? What is it that gives a rock star, a politician, or an athlete the courage to perform in front of thousands, even millions of people, or a business leader the ability to keep churning out product after product that is game-changing but also high risk for his company? Read More

Courage is contagious

It's definitely true that self-talk matters. The unconscious doesn't distinguish between words you say and those of others. Courage is self-reinforcing, giving you more courage and confidence with each risk - and each risk builds self-esteem. This is a positive feedback loop instead of a downward, disempowering feedback spiral. Watch my short video on this, here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlU1bTlrGMY
Darlene Lancer, MFT
Author of Codependency for Dummies
www.whatiscodependency.com

"Fake it til you make it"

"Fake it til you make it" simply tries to spare you the vulnerability that it takes to succeed in anything. There's no way around insecurity and doubt. Stop trying to act like you're not afraid! Just accept fear as part of the road to achieving whatever you want. Life is hard and "faking it" is just denial. Denial will catch up to you and in the end hurt you harder than any fear you've ever experienced. "Fake it til you make it" is popular simply because it rhymes. And THAT is fake!

Fake it...

Did you even read the article or did you stop at the subtitle?

Would it have been better to subtitle it "The Placebo Effect"?

Faking confidence even when you're not is quite possibly the same as accepting that you're not confident but refusing to allow those around you to know it. Perhaps it can even lead to overcoming your fear.

Art the Fart... How appropriate.

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend you. I just don't have any problem with anyone knowing that I'm afraid. Why is that such a bad thing?

Art the Fart

P.s.

Faking confidence can cause bloating, diarrhea, and passive aggressiveness

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Alexander Spradlin is a doctoral student in experimental psychology at Washington State University.

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