From The Emotional Calendar
Each of us has very deep personal and emotional connections and reactions to the seasons of the year. My goal in writing the book The Emotional Calendar, to be published in January by Times Books/ Henry Holt & Company, New York, is to help you recognize that you can control your ups and downs throughout the year-but with that control first must come an understanding of how these emotional responses emerge, year after year.
Our connections to the seasons are affected not only by weather but also by cultural expectations. From our earliest childhoods on we are imbued with a series of beliefs and ideas about what each time of year should bring - culturally, physically, and personally. Holidays, we are taught to believe, are a time for joy and familial closeness. Summer is meant to be an expanse of warmth and freedom, a time for playful adventures and limited responsibilities. Thunderstorms are supposed to be scary. The dark days of winter are supposed to be depressing.
But so often, the realities of each season are at odds with our expectations. Many of us find that holidays are a source of far more stress than of joy; most of us, upon reaching adulthood, cannot leave our jobs for more than a week or two during the summer, leaving our fantasies of endless partying and relaxation unfulfilled. And, as more and more research has revealed, we all react to different weather types in different ways. There simply is no "normal" or "supposed to" when it comes to how the seasons make us feel.