The Dance of Connection

Rescuing women and men from the quicksand of difficult relationships.

How to Find Happiness When Very Bad Things Happen

“Whee!” says the snail riding on the turtle’s back! Everything is a matter of perspective. Read More

A Simple Way is Here!

When things turn out to be bad, simply go out and help others to make them feel happy. This will automatically make things go right for you. This effect is based on the nature's law of deeds: You only get what you give. When you use your body, mind, and speech for the good of others, you will not have to worry about your own needs and happiness. This is well explained at:

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Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is best known for her work on marriage and family relationships and the psychology of women. Her book The Dance of Anger has recently been reissued.


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