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Whatever your sex fantasy is with your partner, consider it to be normal. People tend to go with "whatever works" to get aroused or to push themselves over the top.
No one reaches orgasm by fantasizing that they are holding hands with their partner during a romantic, moonlit walk on the beach. Your partner may be your best friend whom you love more than anybody, but it doesn't necessarily follow that he or she is the one you're thinking about when you're trying to rev up your arousal or have an orgasm.
Making love involves two people but having an orgasm involves a single individual who takes full responsibility for getting there. Some people sink into erotic sensation without fantasy. Other's open their eyes and have eyeball-to-eyeball sex. Other people latch on to fantasies that are as odd and quirky and far ranging as the human imagination in order to bring themselves over the top.
What you fantasize about may say nothing about what you actually want in real life. You may boot yourself into an orgasm thinking of your dentist tying you down and ravishing you in the chair, but you'd run for you life if that situation actually presented itself. Nor are your fantasies a measure of how much, or how well, you love your partner.
Fantasies are only fantasies. They evolve from a place in the unconscious mind that has nothing to do with your adult capacity for love and intimacy. They are not a sign of disloyalty to your partner, nor an indication that you are some kind of weird, sexual pervert.
