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Can’t Find a Job? Five Tips from Successful Job Hunters

Bobi* is an extremely intelligent, interesting, and charming young woman in her mid-twenties. When she lost her job she didn't know what to do. "I'm a failure already. And I didn't even like what I was doing." Finding a job in this economic market is hard, but not impossible. Here are five tools that can help. Read More

Okay in this concern for tips

Okay in this concern for tips for things to do.

Not very practical. The whole thing is limited to a perspective that the main goal is to work. If you were to find you had more time, it also limits the possibilities for more options because your given an opportunity to reflect on your goals.
This creates a general problem of the fantasy of college. That this story almost rings like an urban myth under the corporate scope of things. Although while true situation at the very least.
Actually it offers no solutions.

Like their is Air Tasker, which provides a small fee to complete small projects.
Their is acting- being an extra in a film, art modelling.
Their is working on commission with with a skill you may have.

Really it's not about the expectation, it's about what the f, do you do? when the propositions of work, are very slim. Yet you have no choice and need to earn money, generally for a living.
This kind of script with bobi, lacks the realistic quality that entails not working.

Bobi, I'm sorry you can't

Bobi, I'm sorry you can't find a job. I am a registered nurse, 65 years old, living in my un-paid-for 8 year old car for the past 7 months (with no hope of ever getting out), and unemployed in my profession since 2010. I became homeless because where I live they are spending billions on luxury housing, soccer stadiums and performing arts centers. My rent was $1000.00 per month- before utilities and all the rest. I get $1088.00 in social security, and that is it. I took it because i couldn't find a job--thank God for it.I hung on for one year, but then the bottom could do nothing but fall out. Food stamps denied, 2 hospital stays-- on and on it went.senior housing with years long wait, etc. My savings were gone in 2010; I make a payday loan every month, and I have sold and pawned every nice thing I ever had. I have no help from anyone, and when my car fails I will be on the street even more. Every night , when I park, I wonder if the police or worse will have caught up with me. I am able and willing to work--doing anything-- but who cares? The barely English speaking people I have to first go through on my daily job searches tell me there is no job for me--even though they are hiring. My calls of inquiry never get returned. I applied for the $7000.00 government job training grant (since no one wants a nurse who was first licensed when she was 21), and was told that I qualified because I was homeless, but I was disqualified because I had no physical address. That is almost funny. Anyway, good luck to you. I will think about your awful plight as I sit and ponder what to do and where to go next. I'm not trivializing your situation - but it could be way worse.

Bobi, I'm sorry you can't

Bobi, I'm sorry you can't find a job. I am a registered nurse, 65 years old, living in my un-paid-for 8 year old car for the past 7 months (with no hope of ever getting out), and unemployed in my profession since 2010. I became homeless because where I live they are spending billions on luxury housing, soccer stadiums and performing arts centers. My rent was $1000.00 per month- before utilities and all the rest. I get $1088.00 in social security, and that is it. I took it because i couldn't find a job--thank God for it.I hung on for one year, but then the bottom could do nothing but fall out. Food stamps denied, 2 hospital stays-- on and on it went.senior housing with years long wait, etc. My savings were gone in 2010; I make a payday loan every month, and I have sold and pawned every nice thing I ever had. I have no help from anyone, and when my car fails I will be on the street even more. Every night , when I park, I wonder if the police or worse will have caught up with me. I am able and willing to work--doing anything-- but who cares? The barely English speaking people I have to first go through on my daily job searches tell me there is no job for me--even though they are hiring. My calls of inquiry never get returned. I applied for the $7000.00 government job training grant (since no one wants a nurse who was first licensed when she was 21), and was told that I qualified because I was homeless, but I was disqualified because I had no physical address. That is almost funny. Anyway, good luck to you. I will think about your awful plight as I sit and ponder what to do and where to go next. I'm not trivializing your situation - but it could be way worse.

Bobi, I'm sorry you can't

Bobi, I'm sorry you can't find a job. I am a registered nurse, 65 years old, living in my un-paid-for 8 year old car for the past 7 months (with no hope of ever getting out), and unemployed in my profession since 2010. I became homeless because where I live they are spending billions on luxury housing, soccer stadiums and performing arts centers. My rent was $1000.00 per month- before utilities and all the rest. I get $1088.00 in social security, and that is it. I took it because i couldn't find a job--thank God for it.I hung on for one year, but then the bottom could do nothing but fall out. Food stamps denied, 2 hospital stays-- on and on it went.senior housing with years long wait, etc. My savings were gone in 2010; I make a payday loan every month, and I have sold and pawned every nice thing I ever had. I have no help from anyone, and when my car fails I will be on the street even more. Every night , when I park, I wonder if the police or worse will have caught up with me. I am able and willing to work--doing anything-- but who cares? The barely English speaking people I have to first go through on my daily job searches tell me there is no job for me--even though they are hiring. My calls of inquiry never get returned. I applied for the $7000.00 government job training grant (since no one wants a nurse who was first licensed when she was 21), and was told that I qualified because I was homeless, but I was disqualified because I had no physical address. That is almost funny. Anyway, good luck to you. I will think about your awful plight as I sit and ponder what to do and where to go next. I'm not trivializing your situation - but it could be way worse.

I find this article to be

I find this article to be very out of touch with the reality of not having a job and looking for one. The intentions are great the advice is not. If one is seeking a job they likely have no money to even go out for coffee. Some people have no money for bus passes or gasoline, let alone funds to maintain a car to look for work. Talking to people every day about a job is much easier said than done. I am not being negative, I am stating a harsh reality that apparently millions of people are going through.

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F. Diane Barth, L.C.S.W., is a psychotherapist, teacher, and author in private practice in New York City.

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