1. Don't let embarrassment or fear hold you back from getting the information you need to be fully informed about your parent's health. Be respectful of the physician's time, but ask questions and expect answers.

2. Ask the doctor or one of the doctor's staff for written information regarding any aspect of your parent's condition or treatment you don't understand. You can also ask them to direct you to a reputable website or printed information.

3. Before the doctor visit, make a written "problem list" of any questions or concerns you want to discuss. Bring the list along and be prepared to jot down notes.

4. Accompany your parent to the doctor whenever possible, and especially when decisions must be made or important information communicated. It will help you and your parent become better informed and make better decisions.