The Buddha Was an Introvert

Finding peace of mind in a hectic world

If Introverts Ruled the World

The introvert version of the Third Noble Truth can start to be realized when introverts recognize there is an alternative to the extrovert ideal. Here are some rules that can help with cessation of the extrovert hegemony we confront everyday. Read More

Extroverts vs Introverts

I believe this battle would never end. Lucky are those persons, who have so much time to think about all these analogies. Personally speaking, i don't even think there is enough time in life to do the things we like to do or finish. Then where people find so much time to fall for all these controversies over whether they are extroverts or introverts. What difference it makes truly in life to watch over other people's behaviors toward me? I am such a self -content person that I hardly find a chance to look at others' comments, or behaviors. So far Buddhism is concern, it's a way of life has been practiced hundreds years ago. Whatever Lord Budhha said, it relates to that time of the world. We have progressed or regressed spiritually in modern world that depends on the trends of our modern time, its inventions, and its typical life styles! Change is the demand of time, no matter how it affects our lives. Only thing we need to make sure that the very core value of life still needs to be maintained. I hope, I made some sense here to mitigate the battle of extroverts and introverts. Wishing all the best to everyone!


I am an introvert, and I was married to an E for 15 years. She thought I was distant, aloof, boring, anti-social, narcissistic etc. because I didn't do all of the mandatory couples things that were expected. I was much happier staying in and watching something on TV with a bottle of wine. Since getting divorced 7 years ago, I am thoroughly enjoying being in Introvert on my own terms. I agree with everything in the article except for the multi-tasking comment.

I own a restaurant, so I always have to be "on" in order to make a living. It is exhausting...mentally, physically and socially. I am on a constant quest to find the best and fastest way to get things done in my life, and with that comes heavy multi-tasking. It actually keeps me focused and sharp when I have 3-4 important things that I'm working on at once. The biggest benefit is it gives me much more downtime, which is critical. And there is very little room for procrastination with this method.

I am now at such a peaceful, centered stage in my life. Next up is to really try to disengage, go off the grid for a little while, and totally let my mind relax. I have difficulty taking mental breaks, but reading about this topic and other personality-driven concepts helps me relax and lower my radar antenna.

Introverts accept the notion that since we are each given two ears and one mouth, we should spend twice as much time listening as we do talking.

I would add: Don't seek

I would add:

  • Don't seek confirmation of or reaction to everything you say and do
  • Seek to genuinely understand people, not to change them
  • Don't constantly justify your relative status to other people by the things you own or how much you paid for them
  • Dont divert conversation on every one of your hot-words. Listen.
  • Some people are content. Yes, they really are. Dont tell them what they should want; learn from them.

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Arnie Kozak, Ph.D., is a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry, University of Vermont College of Medicine and founder of the Exquisite Mind Psychotherapy and Meditation Studio.


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