The Blame Game

The complete guide to blaming: How to play and how to quit.

by Neil Farber, M.D., Ph.D.

Throw Away Your Vision Board

Vision or Dream boards have achieved notoriety in the past few years with the release of the book, The Secret. An endorsement from Oprah also didn’t hurt. Read More

Goals are great. We should all have goals. Goals help us to focus our energy, form plans, live a purpose-centered life, and give us a feeling of accomplishment. What do I want to do with my life? Where will I go on vacation? What will I do tomorrow? What will I do today? What will I have for lunch? Should I squish that bug? Read More

A Surprising Journey

I received an anonymous comment on my domino theory blog. The writer provided positive feedback regarding the theory and made some suggestions. I responded; indicating that they must have taken a peak at my next few articles because I was going to write about the two topics that were the focus of their remarks. The response that I received took me by complete surprise. Read More

The Domino Effect

The domino effect is where we approach our goals in a mindful, positive way; focusing on the process and the journey, rather than becoming outcome-oriented. In this way we always benefit and in some sense succeed from being on the path, whether or not we reach that final domino. Read More

Dominoes vs Rainbows

As Buddha said, "It is better to travel well, than to arrive." Becoming journey-oriented rather than outcome oriented is essential for creating our own positive reality in a mindfully spiritual way. I propose a "domino" theory of goal-setting and urge you to give up on the pot-of-gold at the end of the rainbow. Yes, you can still believe in the tooth fairy... Read More

Voice Your Choice

We are each full and active participants in our lives. We happen to life, life does not happen to us. Life is all about choices and taking responsibility to make those choices. Read More

Going Down in Blames

It seems that in every newspaper that I open, every journal that I read, every TV show or TV news broadcast that I watch, blaming is front and center. The focus on blaming is not the pathway to positivity. Rather, it is through ubiquitous finger-pointing that we will go down in blames. Read More

The Organizational Blame Game

Failure at some point is inevitable. Fortunately, given the right mind-set and culture, failure can also lead to great improvements within an organization. Learning from failure has the potential to improve our safety, efficiency, and chance at future success. Read More

Blaming vs Thanking the Battle Rages On

A few years ago I was supposed to go to China as a volunteer for a medical mission. I had submitted paperwork and had been approved by the organization coordinating the mission. I had worked hard to also get approval from my job to take vacation time for the mission. I had my passport and the appropriate visas for the trip. Read More

Mission Possible

I've just returned from volunteering on a medical mission in Colombia. It has been several years since I was there and many changes have taken place since that time. The city is much safer with much less need for continuous security protection. The hospital is now affiliated with a university and the facilities are more advanced. Read More

National Blaming Week

Last week should aptly be renamed "National Blaming Week". A mentally unstable young man commits a horrendous and senseless act of violence. Our response? Blame somebody - blame something! Many in this country responded to the recent shootings in Tucson by blaming anyone and anything that could have potentially and negatively influenced... Read More

The Pursuit of Perfect as the Basis for Blaming

Tal Ben-Shahar is an expert on happiness, teaches at Harvard and has written some internationally successful books on the subject. He has identified the major obstacle to achieving happiness; the aspiration to a life that is not just happier, but perfect. It is also our habitual pursuit of perfect which is one of the leading causes of blaming. How does this happen?... Read More

To Complain or Blame: Is That the Question?

The two greatest sources of our habitually negative thoughts are Blaming and Complaining. Our love for these two negative bedfellows is unhealthy and detrimental to us as individuals and as a society. While Blaming and Complaining have very distinct personalities, when it comes to performing the actions,... Read More

The Original Blame

Let’s take a new look at the world’s oldest game – The Blame Game. Yes, that’s right; The Guinness Book of World Records has recently awarded Blaming the title of the world’s “Oldest Game.” It is fascinating, at least to me that... Read More

If You're Not in Awe, Read This Blog!

Do you want to reduce stress, anxiety, depression, fatigue, medications, physical complaints, anger, bitterness and emotional pain? How would you like to improve your sleep, mood, relationships, emotional and mental health, cardiovascular health, altruistic behavior, inner peace, sense of well-being and satisfaction with life? I'm not selling snake oil - rather, I'm promoting an ancient Jewish tradition with modern research as support... Read More

It's Not Your Fault - Blame Biology!

I turn on the TV and find a commercial informing me that I should Blame Biology rather than french fries for an outbreak of acne.

Neil Farber, M.D., Ph.D., is a physician, researcher, and international expert on blaming. He is a member of the IPPA and the author of The Blame Game. The Complete Guide to Blaming.

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