The Attractionologists

Investigating the Science of Attraction and Relationships

by Eli Finkel and Paul Eastwick

August 4, 2008

Separation Distress Among Romantic Partners and its Lessons for Human Mating

When I was 11, my stepmother described how she broke down while traveling in China. She was away from my father for 5 weeks, and at the time of one of their scheduled phone calls, she couldn't find a way to connect. Read More

July 24, 2008

It’s Your Wedding Day … Should You Vow You’ll Love Your New Spouse Forever?

By Eli J. Finkel

As your friends and family look on, you look into your new spouse's eyes and see your loving gaze returned. The sun shines, the smiles radiate, and your heart wells up with joy. How wonderful to have found your life mate! You're certain you will love this person forever. Should you solemnly vow that you will do so? Read More

July 5, 2008

Should You Play Hard to Get?

By Eli J. Finkel

Your heart goes out to Jessica Simpson. Not only is her relationship struggling, she is also forced to endure the inevitable barrage of magazine articles scolding her for her missteps: If only you didn’t screw up, Jessica, your man wouldn’t be thinking of leaving you. Read More

Relationships Basics

Love is the most profound emotion known to human beings. For most people, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. Almost all of us have experienced a failed relationship, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

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