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Most anger is with myself

You said that you got an insightful comment from a reader named Maria who said, “your last post reminded me of how I arrived at the realization that most of my personal anger and conflict was with myself."
That makes sense to me. I think I have expectations, not always reasonable, because I don't think I can accomplish what I want to do without pushing myself.
A manager's job is to make sure employees have what they need to do the job. But as my own manager, I don't always know how to manage myself and I am not always kind to myself. After I find that I didn't do something when or how I wanted to, I realize that I didn't need to do it that way after all. By then, I've already caused myself stress, so I can blame myself for causing myself to be stressed!
I'm practicing mindfulness meditation with a group once a week.

Most anger is with myself...

Good morning Darcy--Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences and insights with myself and other readers.

Your point about people who are self-employed and manage themselves needing to treat themselves like any good manger would treat an employee to 'make sure the employees have what they need to do the job' resonated with me.

I'm happy to hear that you are doing mindfulness meditation with a group once a week now to break the cycle of unreasonable expectations snowballing out of control.

You hit the nail on the head when you said, "By then, I've already caused myself stress, so I can blame myself for causing myself to be stressed!" It can be such a vicious cycle...

Thanks again for taking the time to post your comment. Have a great day, Darcy!

Christopher Bergland

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Christopher Bergland is a world-class endurance athlete, coach, author, and political activist.

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