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The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment (Part II)

In my last post, I the reviewed the narcissistic family model originated by authors Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert M. Pressman in their book The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment. I promised to review the author's model of recovery and recommendations for improvement. Read More

Now in my 40's, I am just

Now in my 40's, I am just coming to grips with the reality of my narcissitic family and it's fallout. As a result, I went straight into a relationship and an 18 year marriage with an extremely narcissitic man, and I feel entirely overwhelmed after all these years by the trauma I have been through (my husband only revealed to me last year that he's been paying for sex our entire relationship). I realize now that I've ignored so many signs along the way, listened to so many negative voices, I truly feel as though I'm just a shell of person, a stranger to myself, and I don't know where to start.

RE: Now in my 40's, I am just

im sorry, I understand how you feel. you articulated my experience all too well. I am aware that I am not who they wanted me to be, I am not weak and I am not an object to be toyed with. but it sure as hell makes trusting difficult and at times impossible. its a struggle each day to not withdraw and avoid the dance of people, being alone, sheltering myself would be easier if I didn't have kids. they force me into the sunlight and into the truth. we get no promises in life but we can't let it destroy us either. if you ever come back and read this know that I am just a stranger but from my heart I wish you well. live your life.

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Marisa Mauro, Psy.D., is a clinical psychologist at the California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation.


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