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(Punishment, Part two.)When it comes to punishing their adolescent, most parents understand that even if they resorted to spanking (or other acts of physical hurt) when he or she was a child, now with a teenager this corrective response does more harm than good, as it may have done back then. Read More
We should encourage our kids
We should encourage our kids to do good things and not to stress that they are so bad for the mistakes they've done. This article is very informative and show good reasons why we shouldn't hit our kids.
What parents model is what they teach.
Yes, at most punishment discourages the bad. It never encourages the good. Credit has more power to shape positive behavior than blame. Hitting children or adolescents often shows how limited the adults' parenting resources are. Spanking teaches physical aggression.
Wish my parents would read this...
I totally agree with Mr. Pickhardt on the last part; it really hurts when parents only acknowledge a teen's mistakes. I would know, I'm a junior in highschool and I'm valedictorian, and my parents only talk to me about my grades when they go down. When my report card comes in and its full of all A's they barely notice them, but they're sure to call me out just as soon as one of my grades hit an A- (which isn't even a bad grade!). It really makes getting good grades not as worth it. :(
An unhappy truth.
Parents who are never satisfied always hurt their kids.
i know right?
i wish my mom would read this to i mean shes not a bad mom just not a well trained one
Wisdom.
What a wise response to your mom: "she's not a bad mom just not a well trained one." With that perspective, however you reached it, you have taken a major step to maturity. You don't take her behavior personally because you know it's not your fault. And you don't hold her entirely at fault because you realize most of what she knows is what she has known. Good growing!
thx
Thx and ur right and sometimes it does cut a bit deep but forgiveness is vital.
Forgiveness
Sometimes how parents parent says a lot more about them than about the child.
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