Do communication guidelines that make sense for our families and work, make sense for international politics? It seems they should -- after all, the leaders of countries are people! Listen. The first important part of communication is to be a good listener. As former U.S. Secretary of State Dean Rusk said, "One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears - by listening to them." Once people are convinced that you understand them, they'll be more likely to listen to your points.
Avoid demeaning statements. If your spouse tells you that you are inconsiderate or mean (or something much worse), you will likely get defensive and will be less responsive to your spouse's request. I'm not an expert on international relations, but I would think if you call a country's leader evil, he would likely be defensive and suspicious and thereby also less responsive to a request. Since "rears his head" is a phrase usually reserved for animals and monsters, using it to describe a leader of state could also be considered demeaning. It may also be demeaning to tell someone that he is not important enough to meet with you. Even if you believe a demeaning statement to be true, saying it out loud can be counterproductive to achieving a non-violent solution.
