Sticky Bonds

Lost Loves, Romances, and Families in the 21st Century.

7 Myths of Lost Love Reunions

The friends and families of lost loves who reunited often tell them they must be crazy. They consult psychotherapists to sort out their emotions, and many discontinue therapy in anger. Here are some of the recurring complaints, myths, that even professional counselors believe about rekindled romances: Read More

Like a Moth to a Flame

I must read all the "Sticky Bonds" postings. I am looking for answers that probably don't exist, so only end up with greater heartache. My spouse had a brief, intense reconnection with his high school love a few years ago. There were lies, there was discovery. We did counseling which we desperately needed with or without his "emotional affair", I did counseling, the marriage is stronger than ever. And yet I live with the fear that I am the "second choice", that some day she will reach out again. There will be no second chances, I will not do it again. We probably would have benefited from longer joint counseling, but he was ready to move on, always a forward looking man. There is too much I still don't know, am afraid to know. Also afraid not to know. He says it could have been anyone due to the place our marriage was, but it wasn't anyone-it was his first love.

How does my broken heart ever truly mend from that?

To Like a Moth

If you write to me personally (confidentially), maybe I can help.
Dr Nancy Kalish

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Nancy Kalish, Ph.D., is an Emeritus Professor of Psychology at the California State University, Sacramento. She is the author of Lost & Found Lovers.


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