Stepmonster

My stepson threatened to kill me when he was 22. He has never really apologized or tried ot make it right, and that was four years ago. My partner--his father--sat there watching as his soldier son taunted and insulted me and finally threatened me.

Now my stepdaughter has begun to be violent with another brother, and my partner has been reluctant to support me in banning her from our home until her violence is under control.

I can't understand why my partner allows such grossly inappropriate behavior to happen right in front of him without trying to stop it, and why he can't understand the importance of preventing violence before it happens.

Just to know that my adult stepkids are this narcissitic and cruel to their father sickens me!
It's my belief, he's not sure his kids love him at all. After all, this is not loving behavior.
The kids have done many cruel and violent things to him and me. I finally called the police and made it clear I would call the police everytime one of them started raging at him or I. He also kicked the older ones out of the house. That hasn't stopped the problems, however it has calmed it somewhat.
Now, One of the girl's emaiedl a horrible letter to me and carbon copied it to other family members.
Who does that? I'll answer, someone who has hate in their heart. That isn't showing love for your father. Honestly, I have no use for anyone who wont treat me nice. I'm done with the one's who cant behave in an appropriate manner towards me and my fiance. Everyone should take that stand. Just stand up for what is right and you can feel good about yourself and maybe help these messed up kids in the process.

When I married my now husband I didn't believe that his daughters could be so cruel to me. They would just terrorize me it was horrible. I informed my husband when it became physical and he believed it was the public school environment that was showing them to be so disrespectful. I think that the Private School in Utah really a life saver. I really am thankful to have come across this private school. Sometimes children need to be in an environment full of staff who understand and can help these trouble teens.

A very dear friend (and former in-law) sent me this article. "Thank You dear!"...I really thought I was alone in this. My (now EX) husband allowed my stepdaughter to run my house for at least 2 years prior to my moving out and filing for divorce. I raised this little girl since she was 3. I was very instrumental in obtaining custody of her...as when I met him had nothing to do with her but pay his child support and complain how the mother used the child as a pawn. The childs "mother" used to threaten that she would "put me in a body bag if she heard her child call me mother one more time". The EX husband used to tell me I was the toxic one, I was too hard on the kids, they are afraid of me etc. THEN I found out he was giving his daughter and my son alcohol, cigarettes, let them curse etc...and told them "to not tell mom". The best I can piece together is both the kids were 12 when this started. (they are now both 16). The relationship ender for me was when my EX husband restrained me so his daughter could punch me in the face, he then thru me on the bed and ran after her to console her! This happened on a Saturday night, when i went to work on Monday the girls I work with thought my EX husband punched me.... that is the force she used. When I told the EX I was pressing charges on the stepdaughter...because clearly my family was in crisis and needed more help than I knew how to deal with...he informed me that if I did our marriage was over. Needless to say I filed for divorce that week. Since moving my son and myself out of that house I had developed a much better relationship with my son, and while he still won't talk about some of the incidents that happened in that house.... he has opened up to me and I the overwhelming feeling of guilt I feel for working so hard to keep a family together came at the expense of my son's security and innocense. Now I am cleaning up the mess of that 14 year relationship. I hope your article informs others they are not alone.