If we follow love’s lead into deeper waters, it acquires the power to remake us. Marriage is love’s crucible, possessing the tensile strength to contain the heat of self-transformation. In “sparring” with our partners, we root out the false in one another. Presently, a subtly altered person is filling our shoes. Instead of ossifying into habit, the relationship is recharged.
Sometimes love completes itself. Achieving a blameless understanding of a break-up may take years, but it’s a high-return investment in the rest of your life. As we understand how ex-partners served our development, they may come to feel like dear friends.