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When I first quit drinking I

When I first quit drinking I felt like I didn't have too much to be sorry about. I had not married or produced children so I had no family I had mistreated while drunk. I preferred to drink alone so I had not ticked off the rest of my family, friends or neighbors, etc.
I felt like all I had done was disappoint a few people. That there was not a lot of collateral damage.

Anyway, I made a point out of trying to forgive everyone I thought had done something bad to me. I just wanted to be done with it. In the process of forgiving them I realized just what a monster I had been.

Everything about me was wrong during my heaviest drinking. The the way I talked and thought, just everything was wrong. And I treated people pretty badly. I realized they may have done some of the things they did as a matter of self preservation.

It was a seminal moment for me.

I had not been accountable for my actions at all. I had an excuse for everything and the hatred to make it seem real.

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Dan Mager, MSW is the author of Some Assembly Required: A Balanced Approach to Recovery from Addiction and Chronic Pain. He received his MSW from CUNY's Hunter College.

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