Must we really speak to children the way that people speak to their enemies: with great caution, diplomacy, and a meticulous attention to the possible effects of nuanced interpretation? Read More
I so agree! I am a mother of a 5 year old and I do believe in putting some effort to enable effective and thoughtful communication with my child.
However, sometimes the key word here is "effective". I doubt speaking to our children in legally correct terms is effective or serves any purpose other than confusing them with a 3-sentences-long reply where 3 words would have made simple sense.
And, sometimes, just a simple "No" (minus the long winded justification), should also be OK!!!!
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Gina Barreca, Ph.D., is Professor of English at UConn, and author of It's Not That I'm Bitter: How I Learned to Stop Worrying About Visible Panty Lines and Conquered the World.
It can take a radical reboot to get past old hurts and injustices.