Snow White Doesn't Live Here Anymore

Laughter, pleasure, malice, and the pursuit of adult fun

Best Wishes: A Poem for an Ex

I hope she'll do better than I did; I doubt it.

Find a Therapist

Search for a mental health professional near you.

If she loves you

I hope she loves you well—

well enough to clean out the attic

you use as a heart

and dust off the mirror

you use as a mind.

(Remind me: What was

the last original

thing you said?)


I hope she can bring you

warmth when you need it

(and not freeze from the

cold of your back turned to her

in a January night's argument).


May she fill you with a love so true

your empty soul won't rattle

with the hollowness I heard

when, always, in answer to

my silly "I love you"

you would say "Me too" while

avoiding The Words themselves.


Like a kid with fingers crossed

behind his back, you fell through

on all your promises while feeling fine.


I hope she'll better than I did;

I doubt it.



first published in Cosmopolitan, 1986

Gina Barreca, Ph.D., is Professor of English at UConn, and author of It's Not That I'm Bitter: How I Learned to Stop Worrying About Visible Panty Lines and Conquered the World.


Subscribe to Snow White Doesn't Live Here Anymore

Current Issue

Just Say It

When and how should we open up to loved ones?