A reader feels that her daughter is mistreating her grandchildren by not actively helping them to fall asleep. Read More
I agree with many of the statements that were made in this article. The grandmothers comments are a reflection of more than just her daughters approach to self-soothing for her grandchildren.
I myself look at this as a childcare provider as something that is very important for your child when it is time for separating from them at school time. I can always tell the child that sleeps with the parent. That child cries all day and does not take a nap for all most a month. It is the sadist thing I have ever seen. We as teachers encourage the parent to ween the child from them and as a result everyone shows signs of suffering from sleep deprivation. In my experience the earlier your child can self-soothe the better and less stressful it is on the child and your family.
The term used in childcare to identify the child that has this problem is "Separation Anxiety." It is normal for two weeks but abnormal sign of sleeping with parents is a month to two months:(
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Dennis Rosen, M.D., is a pediatric sleep specialist who practices at Children's Hospital Boston.
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