I remember reading somewhere that people prefer dental work to public speaking. After a few months of dental work which included root canal, I can’t say I agree with that. But what if you think that public speaking is the worst thing in the world but you have to do it anyway? There are things you can do to minimize the anxiety and trepidation associated with public speaking. You can begin by reframing your thoughts.
One of the things that might be helpful is to think about the fact that most people are largely unaware of someone else’s actual state of anxiety and discomfort when presenting before an audience. We are all in our own worlds made up of our own thoughts. According to the research done by the psychologist Elaine Aron, it is only about 20 percent of the population that has some keen awareness or “high sensitivity” to the nuances of other people. That means that the other 80 percent is not that cued in to noticing that you are nervous. Nor do most people particularly care. People are more concerned with content than whether the person is nervous saying it. Think about it: When we listen to politicians, in our eagerness to hear what they have to say, or in our outrage to what we've heard, do we really care about whether they are nervous? We all come from our own reference point and nobody really knows what is going on with someone else (unless they actually tell you.) So if you think that everyone can tell that you are nervous, there is a really good chance that they have no idea.