In the course of a day, sometimes an hour, our emotions can range from joy to fear to awe to rage, and at the end of the roller coaster ride, where are we left? What do we actually feel, and are we able to successfully regulate those emotions? It can be extremely draining and leave you devoid of clarity if you are not allowing yourself to "feel" properly. Of course everyone feels and has feelings, but the true question to ask, is how do you identify and express those feelings? There are several variables to be considered in order to be able to emotionally express yourself in a more fulfilling manner. First and foremost, be sure that your head and your heart are connected. When you understand why you are experiencing certain emotions, it will allow you to better express them to others. If you have an inner conflict that you are struggling to resolve, being able to successfully identify and communicate that conflict to others is part of the process of healing yourself.
As we have recently witnessed, in the tragic shootings at Fort Hood,TX, the external breakdown of an individual unable to appropriately express his internal turmoil ended in twelve senseless deaths. The shooter's emotional conflict was so strong that it literally broke him, and he took actions to an extreme which may have been preventable. In evaluating and treating this person, we should be able to learn motivations, thoughts, and feelings surrounding his behaviors. As well being able to connect the dots of his past history of personal and public conflict, it will also expose warning signs to the individuals closest to him, both personally and professionally. This allows us to understand how detrimental it can be if we do not sort through our emotions. We also see outbursts of anger and emotional pain running rampant among our youth, in the form of gangs, bullies, rapes, suicides and homicides....all being linked to repression of the emotional expression of self. Even in the latest headlines involving Tiger Woods' alleged infidelity, we see that the possible inability of dealing with emotional pain can push a person to make decisions they will ultimately regret. Instead of actually taking the pain away, you find a different means to the end.
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