She Bets Her Life

A writer and former compulsive gambler reflects on women and addiction.

Open letter to Sarah Palin, Michelle Obama and my American sisters

I once shopped at a Safeway in my Tucson neighborhood.  Today, a mentally ill young man - nearly a boy - opened fire on U.S. Representative Gabrielle Giffords and a group of people outside that Safeway.  Yellow police ribbons drape the parking lot I once parked in.  Six people died there, including a 9-year-old girl, a federal judge and one of Gifford's staff. Read More

I thought of you today when I

I thought of you today when I heard this tragic story. I will done as you suggest and send this to fb and twitter. Purple ribbons are a great idea.

Thank you

women are responding...I've sent this piece to my lists. m

I thought of you today when I

I thought of you today when I heard this tragic story. Purple ribbons are a great idea.will repost to fb and twitter.

Open letter

Thanks, Mary. You're always a breath of fresh air and I know you grieve as much for AZ as I do. Look out for the new, peaceful mama grizzlies!

I am currently a student at

I am currently a student at the University of Arizona and have voted twice for Congresswoman Giffords. This great American has truly provided a tremendous service for her country Giffords did not dabble about in silly, mindless bipartisan games and voted on legislation based on her principles, not whether something seemed "Republican" or "Democratic". However, I am pleased to see the outpouring of suppport for Mrs. Giffords from both Republicans and Democrats. I truly hope she recovers safely and quickly. May God bless her family in this difficult time and may God also give strength and courage to the families of the deceased and injured.

Did you pin your ribbon on

your jacket? And hope you'll pass this on.

Don't appeal to Palin

Sarah Palin posted a map of the US with locations of certain Congressional candidates including Gabrielle Giffords marked with gun-site cross-hairs. Her idiotic, uneducated, and hateful rhetoric only serves to give validation to people like the shooter. Palin, the Faux News talking heads, Limbaugh, and others like them cannot be called upon to support any kind of peace because they do so much to contribute to the vitriolic hatred so prevalent today.

Purple ribbons are part of a campaign to fight domestic violence and to support the victims. They are also the symbol of support to victims of the attacks on 11 Sept 2001. Purple ribbons are used in support of Pancreatic Cancer research. It's also been the symbol against the use of religion to oppress/suppress people.

Wearing ribbons is a nice gesture, but as with prayer, it doesn't do a damn thing except make you feel good about yourself.

Having been arrested in

civil disobedience and acting as an organizer for years, I understand the tiny action that wearing a purple ribbon represents. This post was deliberately constructed to be inclusive AND to shame Palin for the crosshairs atrocity. I'm interested in whatever might get a lot of American women off their butts and into a sense of community - when I wrote this I imagined walking into the local supermarket and seeing even one other woman with a purple ribbon - and the conversation that might ensue - and the action that might emerge from our words. Wouldn't matter whether we were talking about vicious language, a women being beaten by her partner, the 9/11 attacks, pancreatic cancer research or religious oppression. We'd be talking.

Thank you for your savvy response re: efficacy of action. If you go back through my posts, you'll find a few other S---h P---n posts. Love to hear how you are working for change.

thank you!

Mary, thank you for this eloquent post. I've sent the link out on FB and elsewhere.

Love,
Barbara

Well done Mary-

This is a moving an important essay. Thank you for writing it. Cheers from Gina

Beyond Purple, Black, and White

Thank you for an insightful post that speaks to the need for real dialogue across political ideologies. Would that Sarah Palin had such a spirit of diplomacy.

Sarah Palin continues to quell any sense of her culpability for the changing discourse (or lack thereof) in American politics. The ramifications of these changes has been reckless. When women, such as Sarah Palin, adopt and spew violent rhetoric it somehow makes it more palpable to the American right-wingers and conservative base.

A woman's voice, such as Sarah Palin's, can contribute to the notion that violence is okay - think her glorified smile after shooting a moose in Alaska and her incessant use of a military, macho vernacular. If a man had said and done some of the things that she had, he would never make it to the national spotlight . . . oh wait, there was Rush Limbaugh before her. But a woman, and often one who meets accepted societal standards of "attractive" can provide a domestic stamp of approval on ideologies that seek to push-back a more humanitarian social framework that would be inclusive and not divisive, just as Anita Bryant did in the 70s.

Today, Sarah Palin is part of a backlash against multiculturalism and feminism, which has pitted whites against whites, leaving no air for African-Americans, Hispanics, or Native Americans to voice whatever particular grievances they might still have with an increasingly vocal racist and white nationalistic ideology. The uprise of these disgruntled patriots has sought to silence the voices that were redefining, yes, redefining America as we continued to strive for a more equal distribution of opportunity, acquisition of power, and of authority. We have been witnessing attempts to dismantle the progress of the civil rights movement, the women's liberation movement, and the quest for recognition, acceptance, and validation of our truly multicultural country. The political rhetoric of the right and of Sarah Palin and her ilk has tragically fed notions that this can literally be achieved by any means necessary in the minds of those who are clinically pathological.

thank you, sister

My favorite part of your comment is this: "Today, Sarah Palin is part of a backlash against multiculturalism and feminism, which has pitted whites against whites, leaving no air for African-Americans, Hispanics, or Native Americans to voice whatever particular grievances they might still have with an increasingly vocal racist and white nationalistic ideology."
I have learned that the backlash is funded by big money - there's a surprise.

you have no idea how much

rich backers indeed - you have no idea how much. very few americans do.

the Koch family (2 billionaire far right wing brothers) see the link --

http://www.democracynow.org/2010/8/25/the_new_yorker___billionaire

Rupert Murdoch media billionare - look him up anywhere.

look anywhere real news is told to find many, many more rich right wing contributors to conservative christian politicians.

if i could retire today, i'd move out of this country - if only to get away from the proliferation of weapons.

Thank you, Ann

There's a Joni Mitchell Youtube video interview. She says, "Time is running out for our species...Rationally, I have no hope; irrationally, I believe in miracles." Every day I learn more about the power of the wealthy elite and the corporations - it leaves me with nothing but rationality. So I write and put my words out wherever they can go. If you've been having trouble finding my posts on PT, just google my name. I just wrote a couple new ones. They've been moved into the Personal Perspectives site.

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Mary Sojourner, M.A., is the author of She Bets Her Life: A True Story of Gambling Addiction (Seal Press/ April 2010) and Going Through Ghosts (U.Nevada Press, 2010).

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