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The Fascinating Truth About Women and Sex Over 50

Women over 50 are not usually struggling to establish a marriage, a career or a family. They are ready to do something different and their focus has suddenly begun to center on their relationship to their own sexuality. So how does she get started? First she needs to let go of the idea that women over the age of 50 have a diminishing or lower libido after menopause. Read More

Sex after 50

Bravo to Pamela! Another wonderful article on sex as we age! Conscious thinking about our sexuality as we age!

Thank you!

Deeply appreciation the appreciation!


I am 55, widowed 6 yrs,and until recently ,I thought my sex life was over .WOW !!!! What a difference a day makes.I am having the most sensual mind boggling physical loving affair, ever!!! I was told woman reached there sexual peak in there mid 40s ,Pfst!


I LOVE that for you!!!!

My 54 year old girlfriend

I came across this article cruising through Psychology Today, and thought of one of the most sensual and erotic sexual experiences I have ever had. She was 54 and I was 26 at the time (this was 21 years ago). As I write this and think about her even now, I have loving feelings and am on my way to erection : ) We saw each other over a period of 3 months, and the emotional intimacy combined with our sexual activities made for an absolutely wonderful and memorable experience! So, kudos to those women over 50 who are exploring, getting in touch with, and truly enjoying their sexuality.

The Wild Card in the Pack

One topic not mentioned here is that of developing chronic pain. I have severe systemic osteoarthritis and need strong medication to at least diminish the pain.
I've never had trouble with sexuality until now. Between the pain itself and the side effects of the meds, my sex drive has vanished. Despite fighting this condition, my life has gotten narrower. Life happens, bad with the good.
My husband coincidentally developed the same condition and jokes about "his 'n' hers" arthritis. This is sort of a silver lining, since we understand each other's pain issues perfectly, and are in this together, although we'd really have neither of us afflicted.
We still enjoy what we have: ability to really talk together, like same plays, films, types of vacations, politics.
Possibly you could include a bit about one's sex drive diminishing because of some of the effects of aging which are here to stay.

I am 58 and my wife is 54. I

I am 58 and my wife is 54. I have more sexual energy than I had at my 30s and so does my wife. she never says no and I am doing it like crazy. it is all, touching, long kissing, frequent hugging. I enjoy even looking at her body more now than at young age. thank you for a wonderful article

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Pamela Madsen is a fertility/sex educator, blogger, author of Shameless and founder of The American Fertility Association.


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